As Kanter said, Confidence isn’t about thinking that you will only achieve what you want or that your life will be perfect all the time. Confidence is this calming feeling deep down in your gut knowing that you are capable. It is about trusting in your work, your abilities or simply your way of life. Confidence is to realistically know your chances of success and to be brave (and calm) enough to act the way you want. It is about bringing your life closer to the point of where you want it to be without doubting your way. Simply said: It is this „Everything will be just fine“ kind of mindset.
On the other hand confidence isn’t about coming into a room thinking that you’re better than everyone else. It should never be confound with arrogance even though the line between these two often is very thin. When a person is confident they don’t need to compare themselves to others because they just know where they are headed and that this is the right way for them. It should never be leading to a point where you put yourself above others but you should be respecting their way and concentrate on your own.
Confidence should be distinguished from self-esteem. When confidence is about trusting our abilities and to expect a good result, self-esteem means how we see our self-worth. It shows how much of the good things in life we think we deserve.
When we think of confidence we always have certain people in our head that in our perception are confident. We often see confidence as a strong character trait when it is actually more of a mindset. Nowadays character is seen as a set of competencies we personally use to act morally. Character traits are for example to be understanding, courageous or careful. Confidence actually is a combination of several such traits but never the same in each confident person. But they all have one in common: they are secure. Maybe not in every part of life since confidence can also appear regarding business or relationships or even just specific topics, but in this specific part they feel secure.
For building these character traits that lead to a confident behavior we get a lot in our early childhood and even from our genetics. But they are never set from there. Education and outer experiences in our young adult life have an significant influence on our confidence. What we experience in our family, school or further education will leave remarkable impacts on how we trust our abilities. But nothing is totally lost if these experiments weren’t that good. We can always invest more into character developement and „learn“ and „earn“ these traits that will make us confident. Also we will never stop to experience situations that will impact our confidence.
Lots of researches have been made regarding confidence and its source but it still is an discussed topic. In conclusion this post can only be an abstract of an complicated topic.
Lots of love,